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This Christian dating and matchmaking advice covers how to get the most out of a Christian dating service and Christian personals:

Always reward someone’s courage, time and effort with an honest, prompt and Christ-like reply. Let your yes be yes, and your no be no. If not interested, say so gently. If interested in someone who is not interested in you, take it with the grace of God who loves you and wants the very best for you. If mutually interested, take things slowly. Let God lead you. Pray! Online Christian dating can be just as fun as offline Christian dating just as long as the former leads slowly to the latter.

Post a current photo. Not one that is ten years old depicting you in your glory days when you had more hair, less weight or whatever. Proverbs 24:26 tells us “an honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” So is an honest photo. One of the most prevalent complaints that we get from Christian singles is summed up thusly: “Gee I wish they had posted a recent photo, so that when we met at that restaurant I was able to recognize them… they walked right up to me and I thought they were someone else…” Get the point! Sure you do. Remember, God loves you so very, very much that He sent His only son to die for your sins. God can certainly send a wonderful mate into your life who will love you with or without missing hair, added pounds, extra chins or whatever. “There is no fear in perfect love, but perfect love drives out fear.” 1st John 4:18 (NIV version)

WARNING: NOT ALL PACKAGES LABELED “CHRISTIAN” CONTAIN THE INDWELLING HOLY SPIRIT. “And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. It is not surprising, then, if his servants masquerade as servants of righteousness. Their end will be what their actions deserve.” 2 Corinthians 11:14-15 (NIV version)

In the good old days in America—back before globalization, one-world government, the UN, ACLU, political correctness/ tolerance/ humanism, and other instruments of Satin—born again Christians or not, “One Nation Under God” encouraged honor in considering oneself a Christian. Matchmakers did their matchmaking at the local church. And the thought of using a local Christian dating service was hardly ever an option. There was a Christian dating service that exchanged letters anonymously between single Christians for a small forwarding fee. Even today, many consider themselves to be Christians simply because they are Americans. Some non-Christians like to date and marry a “GOOD” Christian man or woman. And to do so they use a Christian dating service, not having the slightest spiritual interest or calling. Therefore, LOOK FOR SIGNS OF SPIRITUAL INTEREST AND MATURITY before letting yourself get personally involved or excited about a particular single Christian or potential Christian date.

“...Be as shrewd as serpents and as innocent as doves.” Matthew 10:16 (NIV version)

Be honest and expect others to be honest with you, but certainly make them earn your trust! Do not be naive in giving out your private information such as phone number, address, where you go to Church, where you work, etc. especially if you are a woman. Most, if not every Christian dating service works very hard to protect your privacy. It is when you let your guard down prior to verifying a persons Christian character that causes trouble.

Always ask yourself, “I know that is what they said or wrote to me, or posted in their personals ad, but what do their actions say?” WHAT IS THIS PERSON’S AGENDA? Do they act like they truly have an interested in getting to know me as a person. Or is something else motivating them?” Something like sex, my money, their big ego, or God forbid; some intended abuse or criminal activity. Using a Christian dating service can be fun, but play it safe.

Did you know that with reverse phone directories a person could get your name, address and even a map to your home? In the wrong hands your listed phone number typed into the Google.com search bar could jeopardize your privacy and safety. Guard your phone number with your life! InfoSpace.com and AnyWho.com are two other websites that offer reverse directory services. If this concerns you, you should check to see if your listed phone number is in the reverse directory and simply remove it. Removal at Google is easy. But you do have to make the request.

God blesses purity! Keep your thought-life pure and pollution-free. Christian women, are romance novels coming between you and God’s perfect choice to be your husband? When it comes to dating, it sure can be hard for a real 3-dimentional man to compete with the 2-dimensional hunks that live inside romance novels. Though the Romance Writers of America will not agree, many romance novels are indeed nothing more than [SOFTpornFORwomen]. Don’t let them give you false romantic expectations that an otherwise normal looking, gentle, loving, considerate and godly Christian man could not possibly fulfill.

Christian men, are filthy airbrushed images of silicone-sluts coming between you and God’s perfect choice to be your wife? It sure can be hard for a real 3-dimensional woman to compete with the 2-dimensional fantasy-women that pollute our society, and the minds of men who do not guard their thought-life ever diligently. Don’t let impure thoughts and images give you false expectations that an otherwise normal looking, gentle, loving, considerate and godly Christian woman could not possibly fulfill.

We are at war folks! The spiritual battle to set you free from sin has already been won by Jesus over 2000 years ago. Unlike the lost, you can freely choose purity. Please, Christian men and women, do not go back into the enemy camp. Keep yourself pure. Because God made men very visually oriented, women should always dress conservatively. Because God made women very sensitive to words and to touch, men should keep their paws (and lips) under control and do not use seductive words either.

Meeting face-to-face for the first date, safety and common sense tips

Ok, so you found someone online, emailed each other, chatted several times; and now you are ready to agree that “When first we meet, lets keep our appointment short and safe.” Treat your first meeting less like a romantic date and more like a short 15 to 45 minute job interview to decide if you want to see each other again or start dating. Meet in a very public, crowded place, like a restaurant or coffee shop (preferably one with a pay phone if you do not own a cell phone). Arrive separately and leave separately.

Always let at least two people whom you trust know the time, place and whom you are meeting. Insist on a recent photo. And if someone approaches you who does not look anything like the photo they sent to you, that is a BIG warning sign. Consider leaving right then and there!

Keep the conversation low-key and relaxed. If someone pressures you to move faster than you comfortably wish to do so; or if they keep pushing you for private information; “well then honey, vote with your feet, and leave ASAP! And make sure they do not follow you.”

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